The Eulogy Not Given, A Story of Regret

Why should you give your loved one’s eulogy?

Because, if you don’t, and it gets mishandled or screwed up, you will never forgive yourself!

This episode has a single message. You only get ONE chance to give the eulogy at a loved one’s funeral service.

Deb Callison, 55, shares her story of regretting that she did not speak at her mother’s funeral. She had naturally assumed that she would, had mentally prepared, and was actually looking forward to honoring her mother in this way. But an awkward moment (or 3) created by the pastor, and her mother’s voice to not hurt the pastor’s feelings, changed how things unfolded.

Don’t let your funeral arrangements get hijacked. Immediate family should discuss what the deceased and the survivors hope to create and then communicate the plan to the church, funeral home staff and anybody else involved in making things happen.

Eulogy for a parent or sibling

In our 50s, we are at that age when WE are the ones expected to deliver the eulogy. You may be uncomfortable because of the anxiety of public speaking or afraid you will be too emotional. Deb’s advice is DO IT. You will always regret the decision to let others handle it.

Funeral planning can be made especially difficult when you are in shock and grieving. The eulogy is a key part of the funeral service for all in attendance. Usually, a family member or the officiant gives the big primary eulogy which includes the milestone events of the deceased and the “big picture” of their story. Often times, attendees are asked if they wish to “share a few words”. If you want to, you should, otherwise, there will never be a second chance.

Episode 57 will teach you how to prepare a eulogy.

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